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How do you see the therapist applying the theory in practice?
I feel the therapist is too directive. He’s attempting to ‘tell’ Gloria how to behave. I don’t understand how this can really work on a deep level, as in the fundamental parts of her that are shy, embarrassed and shame. There is a lack of inquiry and more of a lecture. Does behaviour change that way? I don’t feel that’s the case. I mean is convincing however it’s as though he’s persuading her rather than empathising.
Is it working for the client? I don’t think it’s working. She is frowning as he ‘tells’ her how to behave. She’s explaining her current behaviour, he’s telling her she’s anxious. And I feel that this is not helpful. As in ‘you’d like a guarantee’, he’s adamant that he knows what would work for her. And telling her what’s going on and who she is. She affirms that he may know but does this create real change. She says she feels encouraged and inspired. I only know that this would not work for me.
What did you find most interesting? I find that his approach is not at all relational. And I would expect that working with a client means honouring the client-counselling relationship. He says this is all about her philosophy of life. However I didn’t get a sense that he understood deeply what her philosophy was. She hardly got to talk. He’s being the authority and not inquiring on other situations in her self. Almost making hard for me to believe he could support real change in the person. He’s even putting her down to convince her that she should listen to him. There is no mention of emotional feeling, love or genuine connection.
What type of clients may benefit from this therapy? Someone that feels okay about exposure therapy or someone that is okay about being ‘told what to do’. Men perhaps that are interested in learning wats of convincing people of things. I really cannot relate to this method of counselling. As he tells her to “force her lake to open her ‘big mouth’ and be her self!!”. I actually find this method quite manipulative for the male agenda.
Gloria has wisdom in her self that id not being at all leveraged. It’s as though he is almost condescending.
He tells her to take risks! This is not the way to support a woman, he’s suggesting that she be more promiscuous and flirtatious in uncertain circumstances. She points out he’s encouraging her to be brazen.
His voice is way too predominant in this session.
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